Better questions, without pretending to know you better than you know yourself.
These tools organize what you tell them. They do not diagnose, rank, certify compatibility, infer consent, or turn a complicated person into a percentage.
The Pattern Mirror
A guided self-examination of recurring choices, relationship patterns, feedback, avoidance, context, and the parts that remain yours to change.
- Optional narrative context
- Pattern hypotheses, not diagnoses
- Actionable 14-day experiment
- Safety overrides blame-based analysis
Know Thyself
A behavioral personality portrait across five broad dimensions, using public-domain IPIP statements and optional private context—without types or psychiatric labels.
- 50 behavioral statements
- Five dimensional scores
- Private contextual reflection
- Not a diagnosis or clinical screen
Kink Discovery Profile
A detailed solo questionnaire that separates curiosity, fantasy, desired practice, experience, current interest, uncertainty, and hard limits instead of collapsing them into a label.
- Solo by default
- Context can be skipped
- Hard limits always take precedence
- Not a diagnosis or identity assignment
Two-person conversation matrix
Invite another adult member to complete their own private profile. Shared results highlight mutual interests, discussable differences, and boundaries without exposing either person’s raw answers.
- Works after individual completion
- Separate consent from both people
- No numerical compatibility score
- Private answers remain private
Relationship Reflection
A structured reality check for recurring patterns, expectations, reciprocity, communication, and the difference between an observation and the story built around it.
- Seven core questions
- Optional context
- Adaptive clarifiers
- Safety takes precedence over pattern analysis
A map is useful. A verdict is seductive.
Use a result to name questions, prepare a conversation, or notice where your stated preferences and actual choices diverge. Do not use it to pressure a partner, excuse harm, or declare another person compatible without their participation.
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